Day fourteen of the final full IVF cycle in our quest to chase our little miracle - 100 iu's FSH, Orgalutran injection PLUS Trigger shot, just before i get into my post, i just want to mention that by george do my ovaries hurt, it is like having two balls of fire constantly flaring up... I am trying to keep as hydrated as possible... but now i am seriously bloated... hmmm on days like today all you can do is laugh, laugh at yourself and get on with your day. So on that note i write my post as a i have heard this question way to many times to date, and i really want to ask you back... What does it matter?
How old are you?
I am 27.
That's still young, you have plenty of time to start a family.
So the polite way to end this conversation, and the way it generally goes in my world is...
Yes, i know, okay...
END OF CONVERSATION... but you know what, you really know what? No NO this is not the end of the conversation, and if i had the balls, if i really wanted to show my real feelings this is what i would say...
How old are you?
I am 27
That's still young, you have plenty of time to start a family...
LISTEN HERE... I MAY be young, i may only be 27 years old, but dont you get it?!? You naive bunch? DONT YOU EFFIN GET IT? The younger you are the more fertile you are, the older you get the harder it is!! Being 27 means it is the PERFECT time for me to have children, as soon as you hit 30 it beings getting harder.. There are tests, and medical studies to prove this.
Dont you people watch a current afair? Havent you ever read the articles about the population and how women are struggeling because they are choosing carrers over motherhood? i dont get it? i dont get why you are telling me i am only young. If i am only young wouldnt it be better if i tried all i could now, while i was young fit and healthy? wouldnt it make sence to do IVF now rather than later?
If you asked me, you would find out that the chances of me falling pregnant now are 40-50% where as if i waited until i was 37 the chances would slip by 10% - so let me ask you - wouldnt you try all you could now?
So you know what, i dont care if you are trying to make me feel better, and to tell you the truth, im no fool, i know how old i am and i know i have a lot of years left in me, but concidering my condition, concidering that my ovaries are screwed and it is fact that the older you get the more anovulatory cycles you get then i ask you back - WHY THE HELL WOULD I NOT TRY ALL I COULD NOW?
I know this sounds harsh and i understand that my anger has just escaped me and i know that when i am asked how old i am, people are only trying to help, my husband said it to me the other day to calm me down, but honestly, if you look at society, if you took just one second to look at what is wrong with me and why i cant have children, and if you took just one more second and looked at the statistics of the health of babies to younger mothers, then why the hell would i not start trying now? If i had a normal conception, would people be questioning my age?
Get mad, then get over it. ~Colin Powell
(and now i am over it)
